Damien Oliver / Photo: © Personal archive of Damien Oliver
The new occupation turned out to be much more difficult than he thought.
Not everyone is given the opportunity to radically change their lives. For most of us, everything develops linearly. We go to work, fry eggs in the morning and save money for a new car. We have vacation plans and stable ideas of normal in our heads. This is how our parents lived and the parents of our parents. And we are worse?
But moving forward is a luxury. It is sometimes difficult for a well-fed middle-class person to imagine a different life. For example, the life of a homeless child who grew up on the outskirts of the metropolis. Damien Oliver was such a homeless child.
The life of the former Crystal Palace player took a completely unexpected direction. The football player went to prison and became a porn star.
Hard childhood
When Damien was a kid, no one really cared about him. Father and mother constantly quarreled, and the guy was pushed onto his grandparents. At first, they coped well with raising their grandson, but soon Damien’s grandmother died of cancer, and his grandfather fell into depression because of this. By that time, his parents had already divorced, and their son began to spend more and more time on the street, wandering around the criminal areas of south London.
Damien played football for two years at the Crystal Palace academy, playing as a centre-back. But this did not prevent him from participating in all sorts of showdowns. He fought, got involved in casual relationships with women, used drugs … Already at the age of 17, he ended up in a juvenile colony for 4 months. As Damien himself admits, that term did not affect him too much. Once free, he immediately returned to his old ways. And football was completely over.
Pretty soon he got caught again. This time the punishment was much more severe – four years. Damien had to spend them already in an adult colony, where everything was much stricter and scarier. By that time, the young man was already in a long-term relationship and even had children. In fact, he ended up in jail because of them.
Damien’s girlfriend accused him of kidnapping their children, but two years later, the investigation concluded that the accusations were false. Damien was released and even transferred custody. The former football player does not expand on why this happened, but, apparently, his partner was not entirely healthy. After leaving prison, he immediately broke off the toxic relationship and began a new life.
“I endured it for the sake of the children. I hoped that somehow these relations would work. Every time I tried to leave her, I broke down and came back because she begged me. I was like stuck in this shit, and she constantly humiliated me, said that I was ugly and I had a small dick. At some point, I even began to believe her… — said Damien on the Anything Goes With James English podcast.
New life
When things settled down a bit, Damien met a man named Jayden. They were neighbors and quickly became friends. Jayden helped Damien overcome his psychological problems after prison and a difficult breakup and made him believe in himself again. He also brought a friend into the porn industry. Damien at that time worked as a painter and did not receive too much. Videos for adults seemed to him a good way to increase his well-being.
The first time was extremely stressful. Damien had no idea that it could be so difficult and embarrassing.
The operator was a scary bald Irishman. I had to get my device in front of him and … well, you understand. I was standing with my bare ass and sweating, so that I was already slipping on my sweat, ”Sportbible quotes Oliver as saying.
Damien believed that it would not be difficult for him to take on a new business, because he was always good in bed and was successful with women. However, he had to admit that pornography requires no less serious approach than any other business. It took quite some time for him to overcome himself. Today, the ex-footballer works in the adult industry full-time. Damien also meets with his colleague actress Sophie Anderson.
Damien Oliver / Photo: © Personal archive of Damien Oliver
He’s not sure he made the right choice. Damien thinks a lot about how his life could have turned out, imagines an alternative reality. And even recalls his football past, which, it would seem, has long since sunk into oblivion.
– If I had continued to play for Crystal Palace, I would have earned much more football. I thought that I would become a porn star and I would get high from it, but it’s not as great as it looks from the outside. But I’m not one of those who complain about life and say that he could become the new Ronaldo, – The Sun newspaper quotes Damien.
He admits that there is a lot of dirt and crime in the porn industry. However, Damien himself is now in a position where he can choose with whom he works. Together with Sophie, they launched their own project, which they consider an alternative to the big porn companies. They treat their actors with respect and do not force them to do what they do not want. At least that’s what Damien says.
It seems that life is acquiring that very normality, albeit in somewhat exotic scenery. Damien knows that he is now in this business for the long haul. Although you never know how things will turn out…
